Take a gentle step back
While you’ may feel compelled to charge forward it’s often a gentle step back that will reveal to you where you and what you truly seek.” - Rasheed Ogunlaru
In life we’re pretty much conditioned to constantly be looking ahead, moving ahead. We become restless and impatient. We feel that things are moving too slowly. Or when we feel things are moving too fast it’s because we feel we have not done or achieved enough. Life is not simply about content. It is about truly arriving at a place where we are content in our hearts and in our lives. Arriving at that space is not really about ticking off things from a wish list. It is about appreciating all that we are, all that we have, all that life is. This can actually happen in a moment and this is the invitation of every moment.
While many of my clients come to me – on paper to achieve this or that – that is not the whole reason that really approach me. Yes, there may be things they want to achieve in their life life, career or relationships, but they come to me because they want to arrive at real self acceptance, real fulfilment. They want to be authentic in all that they do.
Just this week I was chatting to a lady who I have coached for a few years on and off. Her life has had many challenges. From someone who was really sporty she was hit by ill health including cancer. She has been forced to step back rather than to step forward. Today she explained to me that she has learned that so much of the doing that she was doing was to fill a perceived space. Now she is stepping back, but passively but peacefully. Slowly she is becoming ready to step back into the world (in fact she has never stepped out of course) now she is ready to sense what truly and deeply resonates with her. But in the meantime when we pause it means that we can truly and richly appreciate the path we have traveled, all those who are around is and all that we are gifted, not least the greatest gift that is constantly looking us in the face; life itself.